I have had so many deep relationships that I have no idea how to conduct myself in a new relationship. Sure I can make small talk (although I hate it) and I can tell about myself, my likes and dislikes. But the point of getting to know a new person, in my opinion, is to get down to deeper levels. If you can do it, then you've found yourself a new friend. If you can't, then that relationship just is not going anywhere and you ditch it like the friend nobody likes. Except in my case my deeper levels are all over the freaking place. Scattered among the innocent levels that did not ask for the deeper levels to be there. They just butt their way in to wherever they feel like going. Which I guess is not a terrible thing in itself, but can be once someone else starts peeling the layers away.
Like on a third date when the conversation gets too "serious" and we just "should be having fun and getting to know each other". Well, unfortunately the layer you just pulled back unleashed some deeper topics and emotions. Maybe this is a sign I shouldn't be dating.
I think that it's stupid that there is this cultural norm that you can't talk about serious things from the beginning. What is the logic behind that rule? Show me how that is beneficial. I think that we want to get to know people quickly, so we can decide if they might be right for us. If you know what makes a person tick deep inside, they become much more predictable, which makes relationships easier. I think people are unconfident of what is within them, and they use that bullshit excuse to hide it. Screw the people who choose not to reveal themselves...that says a lot about them anyways.
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